Updated: Dec 1, 2020
Grief can come in an take complete control of your life without you even expecting it. A lot of times when things happen out of our control or mistakes we may have made we tend to hold on to them so much so that we become that thing. You see I have learned that grief is not your identity but an experience that you go through. I think what happens is that we get so comfortable in that space that it begins to take on a life of its own. It totally changes the essence of who you are. Now don't get me wrong grief can change the dynamics of your life in a major way but it should never change you so much that you become your grief.
I think that is where a lot of people go wrong in life when they take an traumatic experience an give it so much power that it becomes your identity. Divorce, grief, sickness is not a persons identity its just an experience that they have/had gone through. What you do with the experience can and will determine who you are. So never take an experience such as grief and allow it to become who you are but actually mold you and shape you into the person God has intended for you to be